Top 5 ways to spice up your love life (for men)

Do you remember how exciting and passionate your relationship used to be when you first started dating? For some of you, that may not have been a long time ago and for some of us, it seems like decades ago. Whether you like to say it out loud or not, it gets rather tedious and monotonous to live with the same person day in and day out. If you are experiencing a dry spell in your love life, these ideas might get you back in that place where you started:

Understand the power of a male makeover

If you haven’t watched the movie “Crazy, Stupid, Love” you should check it out. The movie emphasises how a marriage falls apart because the husband let himself go. Clothes don’t make the man but it is important for you to understanding how being presentable for your spouse can do wonders in your sex life. I’m not suggesting a plastic surgery or that you must crazy in the gym, just a nice haircut and a few classy additions to your wardrobe can make you feel more confident and “spicy.”

Learn massage

Many men often forget that just touching caringly is one of the most basic needs of a woman. Get yourself a guidebook from any bookshop and learn how to give a nice body massage. Not only will it bring you physically closer, it will relax both of you and take the pressure off. I do foot massages using youtube videos as guides. Boy it works and it gets me brownie points 😉 You may not go on to have sex right after a massage but when you do give a massage, but it will immeasurably enhance the pleasure by relaxing your lady.

Change the settings around

Buy her some sexy yet classy lingerie and some chocolates. If the budget allows, it may be a good idea to get rid of your old double bed, which reminds her of tedium, and replace it with a modern one. You can also try something more personalised by lighting some candles near the living roof sofa and spice it up if you have the house to yourself. Not only will it be a nice surprise for her, it will make her feel loved and desired like she did in your courting days.

Utilise unexpected situations

If you find out that you are both going home early one day and have the house to yourself for a couple of hours, seize the opportunity and don’t waste it in napping or catching up with ESPN. Just the excitement of making love without planning should get her in the mood.

Take a trip

If your schedule or budget doesn’t allow a second honeymoon, just go away to the nearest bed and breakfast for a weekend. Although this will give you plenty of time to spend in bed, don’t forget to reconnect and bond by talking and listening to each other. Intimacy is required for good quality sex and it comes only from listening to each other.